Vows are the most demanding moment of the ceremony.

They ask two people to speak clearly while emotionally exposed, physically still, and fully audible-in real time, in front of witnesses. No other moment in the ceremony carries this combination of pressure, silence, and meaning.

This guide exists to normalize the difficulty of vows and explain how to protect them. Not to perfect them. Not to dramatize them. But to ensure that meaning lands, words are heard, and couples feel steady rather than overwhelmed.